I’m sure you’ve met “bear children” in public, who eat, cry, throw tableware and throw food. It’s not only embarrassing for parents but also affecting others’ eating.
Table manners need to be cultivated from a young age. Don’t think the baby is still small, “naughty” point doesn’t matter, grow up to teach it. You know, it’s very difficult to correct the bad eating habits of your baby.
Why do babies need table manners?
It is easier to establish good eating habits by gradually introducing table manners from the beginning of auxiliary food for babies. A lot of times, we often fall into this kind of thinking mode. The child is still young, and we will teach when she is older. Take an inappropriate analogy. It’s like our generation. Our parents don’t allow us to fall in love when we study, but they hate to get married as soon as we graduate. The baby is a piece of white paper. It is relatively easier to introduce good habits before they form some “bad habits”.
Good table manners can better cultivate a “snack”. 5-year-old children also need to chase behind their buttocks to feed, or they need to eat and play with toys. There are many examples. Moreover, the more such children are, the less interested they are in eating. One of the most important reasons is that the children have not cultivated good table manners since childhood, which makes them mistakenly associate “eating” with “getting adults’ attention” or “getting rewards”.
Good table manners can also make parents have more social activities. Many parents reduce the time of meeting with friends after having a baby. The biggest reason is that they can’t take the baby to the restaurant. The baby always shouts to hug. If we establish table manners as early as possible, we can also have a normal social life if we have a baby.
So, when the baby is one or two years old, he can start to learn table manners. So, what should we do?
Develop table manners according to your baby’s age
Children under 1-year-old are still in the stage of exploring food and tableware just after they contact with complimentary food. The behavior of throwing spoon and food can not be regarded as a bad habit. However, at this time, the attitude of the parents will greatly affect his later eating habits:
If you yell accusations, he will think you are responding to him, and will only like throwing things more and more.
If you keep calm and don’t care, patiently pick up the spoon, calmly tell him that the spoon is used for eating, and demonstrate how to spoon food into his mouth. After a while, he may not be infatuated with throwing things. A kind of
For a baby over 1-year-old, you can see what he can do according to the development of his ability, to cultivate his table manners.
The table below lists the table manners of children of different ages for parents’ reference:
Table manners that age can learn
1-2 years old: wash hands before meals, pay attention to hygiene; do not knock or throw tableware when eating; do not throw food, or grab food from other people’s bowls; do not vomit food; do not scream.
2-3-year-old should wipe his mouth at the adult’s prompt; others should not run around the dining table while they are still eating; if you want others to help you pick up or hand over dishes, you should know how to say “please” and “thank you”.
At the age of 4, don’t spill food or drink; keep your mouth closed when chewing; don’t speak when you have food in your mouth; say “please use it slowly” when you leave after eating; eat a little of each food and don’t be picky about it.
Teach children table manners through words and deeds
“Body teaching” is more than “oral communication”. No matter how much you say, it’s better to do it for your baby. Adults should do what babies are required to do first. The whole family can discuss and formulate the table rules applicable to everyone, from adults to children.
For example, if you want your baby to eat without playing with toys, then adults should first set a good example. When you eat, you should concentrate, not play with mobile phones, not watch TV. I hope the baby doesn’t scream when eating, so adults don’t talk loudly or even quarrel at the dinner table.
Be patient, encourage and guide more
The place where the baby does well should be affirmed and praised in time. For example, if you sit in the dining chair obediently today, you should praise him: “baby, you sit in the dining chair very well today!”
However, the cultivation of good habits is not a matter of one day and one night. Throwing food, throwing tableware, screaming and other behaviors can not be corrected at one time. You need to be patient, listen to your baby’s needs, find the reasons behind these behaviors, and teach your baby the right way to express themselves.
How do babies scream when they eat?
There are two reasons for a baby to scream when eating: first, he feels bored and wants to attract others’ attention and response by screaming; second, he is full and wants to get off the table.
The baby’s concentration is limited. It may be impatient to sit on the dining chair for a while. You need to think of some small tricks to make the baby feel that eating is an interesting thing. For example, you can provide finger food for him to eat by himself, and he will eat more attentively and happily. You can also interact with your baby when eating, such as talking about food with him: “baby, today’s eating is potato silk, do you think it’s delicious?”
When the baby is full, he may want to get off the dining chair. At this time, he should be taught to express himself in a proper way instead of screaming. For example, you can say to your baby, “if you want to come down, you can say” hug “, and then hug you, OK?” If you can’t teach twice at a time, if you can’t teach three times at a time, it will be effective if you persist.
How to throw the tableware and food when the baby eats?
This situation needs to be seen in two. We can tolerate this kind of behavior of babies who just started to add complementary food. The baby has just come into contact with auxiliary food and tableware. For them, these are all new things, so they are willing to explore. Touching and throwing on the ground are part of their exploration. At this time, the calmer the parents, the more inappropriate the better, slowly the child will not continue. If the family keeps stopping, it reinforces the behavior.
If the child is over 1 year old, this kind of behavior will continue unabated, especially after 15 months. Then we need to start teaching babies, which is not right. Look at the baby’s eyes, with a firm tone and she said, food is used to eat, we do not throw. Looking into the eyes is to make sure that the baby is listening to us. The tone is firm. It is to let the baby know that we don’t like this way.
If the baby’s behavior continues, you can take the baby down the dining chair and tell her that the food is for eating, because you have been throwing food, so you can’t eat this meal. I’m hungry until the next meal. (that is, a small time out penalty). Time out is not recommended to be carried out easily, but if the child repeatedly has such behavior problems, it can be tried. The premise is that the whole family should be consistent, and don’t go secretly to give him snacks after a while, so it won’t work.
If a one or two-year-old doesn’t listen to any instruction or throws food on the ground, you can tell him gently with a serious expression: “the food is eaten in the mouth. If you throw it again, I will take the plate away, and you will be hungry.”
If the baby continues to throw food, you can take the plate away and insist on waiting until the next meal to feed the baby. This allows him to experience the consequences of throwing food.
However, once this method is used, the whole family should implement it consistently. Don’t give snacks to the baby in the middle of the way, it’s useless.
If the above problems occur when the baby is eating in a public place and disturb other people’s meals, you can take him away, don’t blame him publicly, but make it clear to him that the reason why he leaves before eating is because his behavior affects other people, and ask him to understand the consequences.