The baby grows up day by day, suddenly one day, parents will find that the baby becomes naughty, push the things on the table to the ground, grab the things and throw them to the ground, and smile at you proudly after throwing them. Why is that? Is the child naughty and disobedient?
Having the above behavior does not mean that the baby is naughty, it just means that the baby has entered the sensitive period of spatial relationship.(understanding children’s sensitive period is the key for parents to help their children grow up healthily and happily.)
At first, children used their mouths and hands to explore the world. And when they start walking, they have a lot of space.
Why do babies keep throwing things down? Why are babies particularly interested in the holes in the sewer cover, constantly looking for things to plug in? Why do you want to go downstairs?
What’s the secret in this? There is an important concept behind all this – the sensitive period of spatial relations.
Children are always full of curiosity , [space exploration] is one of the behaviors, and children will like to [feel the height, distance and texture of the thrown objects through the throwing action].
The period of space exploration lasts for a long time. Children aged 0-6 often perceive their relationship with objects and space by moving, throwing and throwing objects. This is normal, and there is no need to worry about it. For example, if your child takes the book out of the bookcase and throws it on the ground, he may just be curious about how the book will fall on the ground, with no intention of sabotage.
So, if this is the case, try not to interrupt him, especially to stop the child forcefully, “no throwing”. Because if he has the desire to explore, adults don’t let him do it, it will only prolong this stage, and even the more adults stop it, the more children’s rebound may be. Saying too much “don’t throw” and “can’t throw” has no positive effect on children. It can use a simple signal (such as making a gesture) to let children understand that receiving this signal means that the object can’t be thrown around. In the beginning, the child may be a little uncomfortable, but it doesn’t matter. You should be calm, firm, gentle, and slowly the child will change.
At 10 months, everything that can be caught will be thrown out consciously by the baby;
At the age of 2-3, throwing things has become a fun game for the baby.
Scientists have studied the growth process of children and found that almost all children experience this process. When a baby is born, he thinks the world and himself are one. When he moves, he thinks the world is moving.
As he grows older, he will gradually find that the objects around him are independent of each other, but he still can’t tell whether he is moving or the world is moving. So he began to explore the world by throwing things.
It is the initial process of children’s cognitive space and a stage behavior of children’s mental development that children explore space by throwing, moving objects, or taking things out of them, and cramming things out of them to perceive the relationship between them and the object space.
In addition to throwing things, when the baby likes to hide cats, turn the circle, also like to take all kinds of things to build high-rise buildings, like lids or holes, it also means that the baby has entered a space-sensitive period.
The sense of space can help children accurately feel the balance, proportion, symmetry, and rhythm of various things in the visual space.
If children do not get good attention in the space-sensitive period, they will feel restless, which is harmful to their physical and mental health.
At the same time, children without a sense of space are particularly easy to get lost when they go out. Therefore, although it’s very tiring to repeatedly stoop to pick up things every day, you have to give your baby the freedom to “throw”, which is the necessary stage in the baby’s development.
What do parents do when babies like to throw things?
① Try to satisfy the baby’s desire to “throw”
You can give your baby toys that are not easy to damage, such as plush toys, rubber toys, plastic toys, building blocks, leather balls, etc., so that your baby can throw them to his heart’s content.
② Don’t pick up the toys right away
If you immediately pick up a toy and take it back to your baby when he throws it, he will think it’s a game played by two people and throw it more vigorously.
③ Tell the baby what can’t be thrown
Fragile and dangerous things should be put out of the reach of the baby, and tell the baby strictly that these things can not be thrown. What we eat should not be thrown away by our baby. We should cultivate the habit of cherishing food from childhood.
④ Turn throwing things into fun parent-child games
Parents can prepare a paper box, a newspaper group, a small ball and other toys that are not easy to damage, and play with their children, throwing them into the box, to see who is more accurate.
When parents take the initiative to meet the baby’s throwing desire, the child’s throwing behavior has a “vent”, will not throw things. It can also exercise the baby’s sense of movement and space, and improve the parent-child relationship. Usually, after infancy, the baby’s interest will gradually shift to other things, and the throwing behavior will gradually disappear.
Tip: some babies over 4 years old often throw things intentionally when they lose their temper, which is not a normal physiological phenomenon, but a bad behavior habit. Parents need to correct it properly.
6 games to exercise the baby’s sense of space
Many small games usually play can help the baby to establish the concept of space. As long as parents are careful and patient enough, they can play these small games together with the baby.
Methods one : spread out the clean sheets, let mom and dad get under the sheets together with the baby, let mom and dad hold the sheets with their hands, and feel the feeling of darkness and limited space under the sheets together with the baby.
Objective: To create a new environment for babies, so that they can gradually develop a sense of space in the process of adaptation.
Methods two: find a relatively spacious place at home, put some pillows, throw pillows, flannelette toys, let the baby try to use various ways to cross over. Mom and dad can design some storylines together with the baby, which not only gives full play to their imagination but also exercises their sense of space.
Objective: to train children’s ability to observe and respond to space disorders and strengthen their ability to solve space problems.
Methods three: give the baby some blocks, let them stack the blocks vertically, and splice the blocks horizontally. Also, let the baby give full play to his imagination and initiative, and find some favorite ways to play. The most important thing is that the baby is happy and willing to play.
Objective: This is a very common game, I believe that every baby has played and will play, which can stimulate the baby’s sense of space and creativity.
Method four: prepare a large mat, let the baby lie on one side of the mat, and then start to roll. If the baby gets used to it, he can roll continuously to the other side of the mat.
Objective: This game allows the baby to understand and grasp the cushion space, at the same time, it also trains the three-dimensional sense, and also strengthens the baby’s movement ability.
Method five: let the baby lie on the ground, father or mother raise the baby’s feet, let the baby climb forward with both hands supporting. You can also increase some difficulty, such as turning and climbing, to increase the fun of the game.
Objective: it can strengthen the cultivation of the baby’s sense of space and the strength of the arm.
Methods six : build a “cave” with a cardboard box, a wooden frame or adult body, let the baby drill up and down, and enhance the baby’s sense of space.
Objective: To improve the baby’s ability to physical activity and thinking.